While most people haven’t heard of Limiting Beliefs, I can assure you that everybody has them. Even you. So what are they?
Limiting Beliefs, are beliefs (or programming) that are constantly running in your subconscious mind without you even being aware of them. And what they do is limit you from reaching your full potential.
They keep you in patterns where you keep making the same mistakes over and over again
They hold you back from following your dreams
They affect your ability to progress in your career
They make you fearful and anxious
They make you feel undeserving
They affect your self-esteem and your confidence
They affect you in love and relationships
And because all of these limiting beliefs are in the subconscious mind, you might not even know that you have them. So how can you tell if you have Limiting Beliefs affecting your life?
Like everything feels wrong
Nothing you do is right
Nervous about making suggestions
Jealous of other people’s lives
That everyone else’s life is better than yours
You might have addictive behaviours that play out e.g.
Five days a week, I am helping people to shed these beliefs that tend to make them feel stressed, anxious and depressed. The more of the beliefs that you have, the worse you tend to feel about your life.
Below I am going to share with you the Top 7 Limiting Beliefs that show up in my clinic.
No.1 I will never be good enough
This is probably one of the most prevalent beliefs that I come across in clinic. It has wide ranging effects on people’s self-esteem and self-confidence. It causes them to continually doubt themselves.
They might avoid going for job promotions or pay rises
They tend to give up on their dreams, believing that they are not deserving enough for them
They tend to accept shitty behaviour towards themselves in relationships, friendships and family dynamics
They might not go on holidays, adventures, nights out because they feel like they don’t deserve to have anything good happen to them
They tend to feel trapped in shitty situations because they truly believe that that is all they deserve.
This belief tends to form before the age of 6 years old. And some people will carry it around with them for decades.
No.2 I am unlovable
Another highly popular limiting belief that I see in clinic. There are a lot of people who, deep down in their soul, believe that they are unlovable. This can be where addiction steps in. Feeling unlovable creates a hole within us that nothing seems to fill. And we can keep trying to throw things into that hole i.e. drugs, alcohol, shopping, eating. But the only thing that can fill that hole is love.
When we feel unlovable, we can’t even love ourselves. And self-love is the most important thing. Self-love is the only thing that will fill that empty space inside of you and make you feel whole again.
This belief tends to form before the age of 8 years old. Particular if you have
A cold and distant parent who is rarely affectionate
A highly critical parent
Parents who are constantly fighting or going through divorce
This belief typically flows on from the first two beliefs. If we feel that we are never enough and that we are unlovable then, therefore, we are not accepted for who we are.
Because this belief is usually formed in early childhood (up to the age of 7). Our child logic goes like this. If I am not lovable as I, who do I have to become to get love, to be accepted. What sort of actions will get me attention?
Do I have to be the best at everything?
Do I have to act like my sister/brother/cousin/friend because they seem to be liked more than me?
Do I have to get into trouble to get attention?
This leads the child (and later in life) the adult to continually trying on many different masks to be liked / to be loved. Because deep down they truly believe that no one will like them for who they really are.
No.4 If I say no, I will be rejected
This is a classic belief of the people pleaser. People pleasers have several default programmes.
They feel compelled to always say yes to people
They believe that if they say no to something they will be rejected
They believe that it’s their job to make other people happy
So they tend to sacrifice their own happiness to make other people happy
This affects people’s personal life in their relationships, family and friend dynamics. While in the workplace, it tends to make people accept extra work and not stand up for themselves. They are more likely to be taken advantage of as well, in the workplace and in relationships
No.5 I have to be perfect in order to be loved
I have found with my clients that the majority of cases of perfectionism links directly back to the need to be loved. If I become perfect / do everything perfectly then Mum/Dad will love me. This belief is usually formed before the age of 10 years old.
This tends to occur if:
A parent has a substance abuse i.e. Dad/Mum will stop drinking if I am perfect and keep the house perfect
If there is constant fighting in the house i.e. If I am perfect and make no mistakesthen there will be no reason for Mum and Dad to fight
If a parent is away for long periods at a time (e.g. sales/mining/truck driving etc) or
If a separation or divorce occurs – both of these tend to have the belief – if I was perfect then Mum/Dad wouldn’t have needed to leave
This belief constantly comes up. It’s not uncommon for people to be so cut off from their own intuition that they have no idea what is best for them.
They can become frozen in indecision. Not trusting themselves to make the right choice.
Their head is full of doubts and they cannot hear their heart.
So whenever it is time for them to make a decision, they are constantly seeking advice and reassurance on said decision from other people. And if someone whom they think is superior to them has a different opinion, they might go against their better judgement. Because ‘such and such’ always knows best.
So many people hold themselves back because they are afraid to take a risk.
This belief keeps them stuck in jobs that they don’t like.
They are unable to pursue their dreams e.g. business ideas, passion projections
They are unable to date – either via online dating or asking people out for a date
The fear of failure, humiliation and ridicule will keep people frozen. Never to try. Never to actualise their dreams.
This belief keeps people small, frustrated and ultimately unhappy.
If I put all of the limiting beliefs that I hear in clinic together, I would have enough to create a book.
And hey, I have been there. I lived and breathed beliefs 1, 2, 3, 4 and 7. Before I started Kinesiology, I was a walking empty shell full of self-doubt, incredibly low self-esteem and no true confidence whatsoever. Internally I was dying while projecting a fake exterior of confidence. Which is why I am so passionate about Kinesiology because it has completely changed my life
If you can identify with any of the limiting beliefs that I have listed. And want to be free of them, then I can help you. My psychic abilities allow me to uncover the limiting beliefs that might be affecting your life.